Making big decisions

People have to make big decisions all the time.  It’s part of life.  Often these decisions can be so monumental that they will completely change your life path.  They’re beyond terrifying.  Do I start this new business?  Do I quit my job?  Do I marry this person?  Should I have children?  Do I want to sell my house? Should I go to the doctor for this (pick a thing)? Anything can be a big decision if it’s important to you and scares you in some way.  How do we get through these looming decisions without having regret for the rest of your life?  Because I’m impulsive, I generally don’t give things too much thought.  I’m not one to write down a pros and cons list.  I just go with my gut.  I have no regrets though, which I’m extraordinarily thankful for.  This isn’t something most people can say.  I don’t believe in the “everything happens for a reason” thing, but I do know that if one thing didn’t happen in my life, I’d be on an entirely different path.  If I hadn’t have walked into that building that one day, I wouldn’t be married now.  I wouldn’t have the rock and steady presence that my cluttered mind needs.

All of this said, I researched some ways that people use to make big decisions.  I wish I could say I use them, but we all know I just go immediately and figure things out later.  This, money wise, is a detriment for sure.

  1. Know that it is hard to make some decisions.  Some are weightier than others.
  2. Slow your brain down for just a moment. This is where you make better decisions.
  3. When thinking of options, stick to ones that align with your values and morals.
  4. Try and chose simplicity rather than chaos, it will be better for you in the end.
  5. Keep in mind, some decisions have equal pros and cons and each option may be “right”
  6. Once you make your decision, breathe. Things will work out.
  7. Just go along with what happens. It’s going to happen now, the decision has been made.  Don’t try and fight it.
  8. Trust yourself, your intelligence and your gut decisions. As Bob Marley says, “Every little thing is gonna be alright.”


I hope these help those of you who are going through some decisions.  I know it’s not the typical “step one, do a list” kind of help.  This is more of a mental help for those that struggle with making decisions.  Do you have any other suggestions on what to do in order to work through brain blocks and decisions?

2 thoughts on “Making big decisions

  1. The Master gives himself up to whatever the moment brings. He knows that he is going to die, and her has nothing left to hold on to: no illusions in his mind, no resistance in his body. He doesn’t think about his actions; they flow from the core of his being. He holds nothing back from life; therefore he is ready for death, as a man is ready for sleep after a good day’s work (from the Tao Te Ching).

    This is my goal but it may be a while before I get there.


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